What I saw was a dignified and credible woman, describing an event that had derailed her early life. She is a survivor; she took this frightening and indelible experience and used it to build a life to help others. Christine Blasey Ford is an American hero. And then it was Kavanaugh’s turn. Regardless of which of them you believe, Kavanaugh’s performance was an embarrassment. He was belligerent, angry and self-centered. It was an ugly little display of a temperment that has no place on the highest court in the land.
As for us, the voters, what you do with this information is critical to 2018 and beyond. As a sexual assault survivor, I take a great interest in whether Senators see fit to place an assailant on the Supreme Court. And not just any assailant, but one who has not, in any way, seen fit to admit his conduct or redeem himself. Of course, I don’t have all the facts, but I am highly suspicious of a process that refuses to ferret out the facts. The Supreme Court is the last arbiter of the balancing of rights. We cannot afford to give a position on the Court to a nominee who may not view women, or minorities, as citizens entitled to the full range of rights, responsibilities and protections of these United States. If there is any doubt, and there is, the nominee must be rejected.
If Senators view the advise and consent process as just another “pass” for the old boys’ club, if they do not fully explore a candidate’s qualifications and appoint the poster boy of white privilege, we will remember…and we will vote accordingly.
I wish there weren’t so many holes in Ford’s story. I wanted to believe her and had a lot of empathy for her experience but I like many am pretty evidence-based. I think there’s a lot on the other side of this story that isn’t being told by many outlets.
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Each of us has to bear witness–to listen with our heads and with our hearts. Because I, too, am a survivor of sexual violence, I know that some things are indelible, and some don’t stick in your memory. I do not remember the walk home, though certainly that’s what happened. I don’t remember the exact date, though I’m quite sure that it was a Friday evening in August of 1977. (And no, I don’t have calendars.) But, like Ford, I remember the details of the assault. I remember the mental arithmetic I went through in deciding whether or not to press charges. (I didn’t.) And I remember leaving town, my town, rather than to have to face him, at work, or on the street. I don’t expect a victim to be “spot on” on every detail–because I wasn’t. It is traumatic, after all.
You, of course, must apply your experience. It’s not that I am not evidence-based, because I am. It’s that the evidence of my experience is such that it gives me another lens through which to filter such claims and defenses. I am absolutely sure that the inebriated young man, who beat me near senseless for the crime of saying no, has no recollection of the event. If you are fortunate enough to not have this in your history, you may reach a different result.
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Thank you for sharing your story.
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I am so sorry that happened to you.
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I agree with your assessment of the hearing. As a Canadian I have no vote, but I do have an opinion and I watched the hearing in horror and await with dread the outcome of the senate vote tomorrow. I found Ford to be a very credible witness, and the fact she did not remember every detail is to be expected with a traumatic experience – but really does anyone ever think a woman would forget the face of the man who assaulted her? IMO Kavannagh was rude, belligerent, threatening (conspiracy theory, the Dem. will pay for this etc) and most importantly evasive with his answers. Yes, his editorial in the Wall St. Journal, apologizing for his behavior speaks to the fact that he knew he overstepped, but is that kind of temperament what you want in a judge? You can be emotional and upset and not be rude. The saying, “When people show you who they are. believe them” comes to mind. As well any judge who can’t tell the the difference between his friends denying the assault and not remembering it, should not be a judge at ANY level. Kavanaugh and Trump seem cut from the same cloth to me. As I don’t know any Americans to ask, it deeply puzzles me as well that Trump can have so many supporters? Is it true that 50% of the population supports him? Even if you are happy with the tax cuts and policies, how can you condone the behaviour? I worked in health care for many years, and one of the classic symptoms of bipolar/narcissistic personality disorder is one day it’s this way and the next it’s the opposite, and no recollection of anything said previously that may have been contradicted now, or any rude comments that might have traumatized another person, it’s all forgotten. It’s sad that bad behaviour seems to be acceptable and has in fact become the new norm. I am glad you posted on this topic, because as an outsider I am trying to understand it all. I do not get CNN or FOX as I just have basic Canadian cable, but it is too upsetting to watch the news lately.
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I don’t have a television–and watch little mainstream “news.” I far prefer to read the news–and watch it streaming for those occasions when I really need to “see” it unfold. I cannot understand the current outpouring of male victimhood/entitlement, though it’s not merely on this side of the border. Canada had Harper, and Ontario has Ford. As a border-wobbler (born in Canada to an American family) I pay attention to both sides of the line. This knee-jerk, male pushback is happening everywhere–it’s like suddenly half the population has forgotten how to be civil.
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That is true…..but one thing I must say in our current PM’s Trudeau’s defense is that he does stand for equality for women. One of his first actions was to put women (and minorities) in charge of half of his cabinet appointments. Once you get equal representation in a group like that, it is hard to go back to “the old boys” club. I watched parts of Senator Collins speech this afternoon and was disappointed in the rationale for her yest vote. Yes it’s nice to encourage women to come forward, but when they do, no one believes them….she can’t have it both ways…..very disappointing….
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Disappointing hardly describes it. And yes, Justin does have representation–but could do much better on indigenous issues. In that department…the land grab is not yet over.
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Thank you for sharing your story. His behavior was unequivocally awful. And now he’s a judge….
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He was a judge. Now he is a Justice of the Supreme Court of the United States of America. Like I said, the poster boy of white privilege.
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